Transform Negative results into Positive Action

We all have thoughts of "I should've ..." and this causes negative experiences to build-up and we fumble at the next opportunity.

When I first started my business at AAble Home Services, I made a lot of "I should've"s. Each one caused me to be more cautious with the next potential client to the point where I thought of them as cracked eggs to begin with.

Now, in order to get out of that mindset, I needed to view them differently. Even my successes didn't deter the anxiety before the next client. Finally, it came to me.

Every client isn't a cracked egg, every client is a golden goose! I looked at my notes on each client, the good and the bad. I realized that I had taken a different approach with each one. There was a trend with the bad and a trend with the good. I never made a sale before lunch and I never made a sale when I took them out for lunch, but I made every sale in the afternoon around 3:00 and usually it was an off-the-cuff statement about the weather or some other random thing that started it.

In other words, when I concentrated on the sale (first thing in the morning I wanted a new client) I failed because my head would fill up with all the previous failures. But, when I didn't give myself the chance to fail, I succeeded. At 3:00 or so, I go for a walk somewhere and just meet people. When that happens, the conversations are spontaneous and I don't have time to think about making a sale, I just do. By-the-way, I go for walks in the morning and afternoon now.

The point is, you have to find a system or a way to avoid a negative system and train your brain to just act. IF you know you're going to stress in a situation (making a sale, asking a person out) then determine ways to put you in that situation without noticing it (start a natural conversation, not a sales-pitch, work on a project with the person, get to know them and go to dinner, etc...). After a while, situations will present themselves to you and you can adjust them to your expectations.

Using systems like HypnosisEzy to build your self-confidence or retrain your brain may help. But, with or without a system, the longer you let yourself focus on the negative, the less likely you are to have positive action.